Intimacy refers to close and loving relationships such as marriages and relationships between close friends. It is also sometimes used to refer to sexual relationships.
WHAT IS INTIMACY?
Intimacy usually denotes mutual vulnerability, openness, and sharing. For example, a husband sharing his fears with his wife is practicing intimacy. Intimacy can refer to a single interaction between two people, or to a long-term pattern of closeness and warmth. Intimacy plays a significant role in most people’s lives because humans are social creatures who crave and thrive on close personal relationships with others. While intimacy connotes images of romantic relationships, a variety of close relationships can have intimacy. Relationships between close friends, parents and children, siblings and relatives may all be characterized by a strong pattern of intimacy. Intimacy is sometimes used to denote sexual interactions because of the closeness these interactions usually involve.
Intimacy in a relationship is usually something that is built over time. New relationships might have moments of intimacy, but the long-term intimacy that characterizes close personal relationships is a building process. At any given time, a relationship might be highly intimate or be lacking in intimacy. Many people judge the quality of their relationships based on the depth of intimacy and the degree to which they feel close to their partners.
INTIMACY AND MENTAL HEALTH
Intimacy can help people feel less alone, more loved, and less vulnerable. But intimacy also requires a great deal of trust and vulnerability, and some people find this frightening. Many people struggle with intimacy, and fear of intimacy is a common concern in therapy. Couples may seek help when one or both members struggles with being close to the other, and individuals might seek counseling if a pattern of intimacy avoidance has left them feeling isolated.
7 Things Nobody Would Tell You About Being *Intimate* During Periods
Well there is not much known to people about sex during periods. Most of us mostly avoid being intimate during those days just because if not having enough knowledge. But let me tell you, sex during your periods can be one of the best you can have!
In India, women are treated as untouchables during those days but things are changing, people are gaining more knowledge. So why not change things regarding this? Here is all what you need to know about having sex during those times so that next time when you feel like having sex during your periods, there is nothing stopping you!
Before getting on with the things, You should know that it is not unhygienic or some kind of a weird act, it’s perfectly normal, not at all awkward and also very much pleasurable especially for women to have sex during their periods.
1. Always use a condom
Even if you are married and have sex with only a single person, it is important to use condom as it makes it easier to clean-up specially if your partner gets squeamish at the sight of blood and of course to protect from bacteria
Try avoiding the positions which take you to the top, stay on bed. It is just basic science, imagine you being on top will make a huge mess of blood! decide on the position wisely!
3. Say no to shower sex
You may think that you will have shower sex during periods and avoid all the bloody mess but it is a big mistake. It becomes too slippery and add to it the blood trickling down your thighs which makes it even more slippery. The best option would be to use a blanket under you while having sex on flat surface, no showers!
4. You can get pregnant
If you think that you won’t get pregnant by having sex during periods, you can never be more wrong! If you have regular periods then while you are bleeding, you have already ovulated 2 weeks before and only in this case you can’t get pregnant. But until and unless you know when you are menstruating and when ovulating, don’t be sure that you won’t get pregnant.
5. It takes intimacy to another level
This is a given, if you are being intimate with someone during your periods, you are at your most vulnerable position and the level of exposure is really high with all the blood involved, it takes a great amount of trust and bonding to share that kind of a thing!
6. It can shorten the duration of your periods
With each orgasm, more of the blood is released and more the orgasms, shorter is the duration of periods! So girls, go for it!
7. It feels Awesome
I don’t need to tell how our hormones are all over the place during our periods. It makes women more horny plus there is no need for a lube, things get slippery and fun on their own!
7 Things No One Tells You About Sex On Your Period
I’ve had sex on my period twice in my life. The first time it was with a friend of a friend I kept running into around my neighborhood and was casually hooking up with for months. During one one of these “run-ins” I had my period, but really wanted to have sex with him. Before I took him home, I told him I had my period and his response was, “I love period sex.” I knew female friends who really enjoyed period sex, mostly because an orgasm is amazing for cramps, but I couldn’t imagine a guy would go so far as to say he loved it. But he did, and we had a ~bloody~ good time.
The second time I had period sex was actually not too long ago. As we lay in my bed, my partner said that he didn’t think vaginal sex should be off-limits “because of a little blood.” We went for it, but first I grabbed a dark towel to put on the bed, something I had learned was necessary after having period sex the first time around.
But when we discuss period sex, we don’t always cover all the details. Yes, orgasm endorphins can ease cramps and, no, it’s not going to be some sort of insane blood bath (although there will be blood), but there are things that aren’t always covered. Here are seven things no one tells you about period sex:
1.You Should Use A Condom
Even if you’re in a committed, monogamous relationship and you have another method of birth control, using a condom during period sex is must. Not only does it make for easier clean up, which is especially important if your partner is squeamish about blood, but it lessens your chance of contracting bacteria.
“Blood in general is a medium for bacteria,” Dr. Alyssa Dweck, OB/GYN, Assistant Clinical Professor at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, and author of V is for Vagina: Your A-Z Guide to Piercings, Periods, Pleasure, and So Much More tells Bustle. “If blood in the vagina or uterus is exposed to some bacteria during unprotected sex, there are more places for bacteria to grow.”
2.Position Is Everything
While period sex won’t have you looking like Carrie in Stephen King’s classic 1976 movie Carrie after you and your partner finish, it’s important to choose your positions wisely. For example, the spooning position or the missionary sex position are going to be your best bet, from a gravitational perspective. Think about it: If you’re on top, there’s likely to be a bit more blood than if you were on the bottom — it’s just basic science. So if you want to limit how much blood you have involved in your period sex, seriously think about what positions you want to avoid.
3.Shower Sex Is Only Great In Theory
As Dr. Dweck tells Bustle, some of her patients have opted for shower sex when one partner is menstruating, as a means of saving their sheets because, blood stains. But while that definitely seems like a great idea, it may only be great in theory.
For starters, shower sex can be dangerous because it’s so damn slippery. Then, if you toss in some menstrual blood, some of which is definitely bound to at least trickle down your leg, things get even more slippery. Before you know it, you’re both slip-sliding in the shower, and one of you, if not both of you, ends up falling. Basically, you’re better off staying on a flat surface and just putting a towel under you.
4.You Can Still Get Pregnant
Although lots of things come up when people talk about period sex, the topic that doesn’t come up enough is yes, you can really get pregnant during your period.
“If you’re really having your period, then you ovulated two weeks ago, you did not get pregnant, and you’re shedding uterine lining,” Dr. Dweck tells Bustle. “If that is really the case, then you can’t get pregnant because the window of fertility is gone.”
But the problem is that so many women have irregular cycles, so if you don’t know exactly when you’re menstruating and ovulating, the risk is there. Beside, you should be using a condom during period sex anyway, as mentioned in number one.
5.It May Make Things Really Intimate
Of course, period sex if different for everyone. For some people, period sex is not really an act you do with just anybody because it requires trust and an extreme level of comfort. And, exposure to one’s bodily fluid like blood, can create a type of intimacy you won’t have with just anyone.
6.It May Shorten Your Period
Because when we discuss period sex we usually address how it feels and logistics of keeping the blood as minimal as possible, we tend to skip over a major selling point: It can shorten the length of your period.
With every contraction that comes with an orgasm, the uterine lining and blood are expelled. So, we can deduce that more orgasms means more contractions which means more expelling and… voila! Your period could be shortened by a few days.
7.It Feels Really Good
In addition to the many benefits of period sex, like alleviating cramps aside, it also feels really good. Why? Well, for a lot of women, they’re hornier than usual when they have their period, and I think this is something that people don’t mention enough. Also, because you are menstruating, there’s no need for lube, so things are really slippery and fun. Even if you don’t climax, sex on your period still feels great, as you’re sort of scratching the itch of your libido that’s in overdrive for the moment.
Takeaway? Period sex can be pretty damn awesome; you just need to go into it realizing what’s involved. Of course, you may try it and think it’s the worst, and that’s totally fine. At least with these seven pieces of information in your pocket, you’ll have a good idea of what to expect.