8 things almost every man wants from his wife
We all know that the ideal relationship doesn’t exist — even relationships that seem happy are made up of sacrifices and conversations. But despite this fact, every couple wants to have a perfect relationship without quarrels and misunderstandings.
Every woman dreams of finding her charming prince and her own dream house, where she will spend a wonderful life full of happy moments and smiles.
You’ll be surprised, but men also have dreams. They dream to have a perfect, caring wife and a happy, interesting life. They want you to fulfill their dreams and make them happy. We would like to show you eights secret things that every man wants from his woman. Scroll down to find out these secrets and become the right woman for him.
#1. He likes when you surprise him
Your husband will appreciate your efforts to surprise him. It can be anything! Prepare him a romantic dinner, take him on an exciting trip or draw his portrait. There are so many options!
#2. He likes when you are honest with him
Men hate lies. It’s important to be completely honest with him. Do everything possible to build a strong, trusting relationship and he will love it!
#3. He likes having deep conversations with you
Most men want to find someone to have deep conversations about serious topics with. You should respect his thoughts, discuss interesting books and play intellectual games with him.
#4. He likes when you care about him
When your man comes home from work, he wants you take care of him. He likes when you meet him at home with a smile, give him a kiss and have dinner with him.
#5. He likes when you take care of yourself
All men love confident women. When you love yourself, you have confidence in yourself.
#6. He wants to know that you’re happy
Your husband really wants to make you happy. So if you tell him how happy you are, he will be pleased.
#7. He wants you trust him
It can be difficult for women to understand that men need space from them. If your husband wants to hang out with his friends, you should let him do it. Trust him and he will trust you.
#8. He likes being valued
No one likes to be criticized. You should find ways to cheer him up and help him feel valued.
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The Exact 8 Things Every Man Really Wants In A Woman
If you’re reading this article, chances are that you can’t really tell if the guy you want is interested in you.
Is he just being friendly? Is he flirting? Is he interested? What are men actually looking for in a woman they want to date?
The big question is, “Why are guys interested in some girls over others?”
And the answer has to go beyond just “looks” – although that is an important factor to men.
The real answer has to dive deeper, into what men are actually looking for in a long-term partner (and short-term too!)
Maybe you feel like you don’t know why men are deeply attracted to some women and not to others. It could feel like you’re flying blind, and you don’t know how to get the guy you want interested in you.
Maybe it feels like you keep dating guys who aren’t that interested in you, and you’re looking for the answer of what will make him more passionate and “into” you.
And all that leads back to the central question: what do men really want?
Here’s a list of the 8 most important things guys look for in a woman (and note: this isn’t in a particular order).
The 8 Things Every Guy Looks For In A Woman
1. He Wants To Be Deeply Attracted To You
I want to address this head on because I want to help you be as effective as possible: men want to be attracted to you and being attractive does have an impact on men.
I realize that some people might get angry when I say that, but I have to say it because I want you to be successful.
More importantly: there’s no reason to get angry… no matter who you are or what you look like this can be a huge opportunity for you.
This planet is filled with different kinds of men who all have different kinds of tastes and preferences for what they find attractive.
A big mistake that women make is that they try to become a certain image of attractiveness that may or may not be them, instead of the most attractive version of themselves.
When it comes to attraction, you don’t have to worry about people who aren’t attracted to you. Those people can be effectively invisible to you.
For the people who will be attracted to you, be the best and most attractive version of yourself that you can be.
Doing what you can to be the most attractive version of you possible is only going to increase your options, increase your power, and increase your effectiveness with attracting the person you ultimately want to attract.
So forget about the virtually unattainable standard that magazines and TV try to get you to hold yourself to. They’re only pushing that on you to get you to buy what they’re advertising.
Instead, focus on becoming the most attractive version of yourself possible.
If you’re feeling down about yourself, this is important to remember: women focus on the things they hate about how they look.
That’s a shame, because men focus on the things they like best about how a woman looks. He’s not looking at your worst features – he’s too focused on your best ones.
Here’s exactly how to put your energy towards being the most attractive version of yourself that you can be:
1. Put effort into your wardrobe and wear flattering clothing – clothing that makes you feel good and that you feel sexy in.
2. Focus on feeling good about yourself – a positive attitude is more important to overall attractiveness than a dress size or two.
3. Put effort towards being in shape and looking a way that makes YOU feel happy (not a way that some scummy magazine is telling you to look). This helps you feel great about yourself as well.
If you put effort towards those areas of your life, you will become the best and most attractive version of yourself that you can be – and that’s what the men who will be attracted to you really care about the most.
2. He Wants To Be Able To Share His Passion With You
Men are desperately searching for someone in the world to share their passion with.
Every guy is deeply interested in some subject – the thing that he “nerds out” about more than any other.
It’s the thing that he talks about that seems like it changes his whole demeanor. Even shy guys have no problem talking about their passion, once you get them going.
Find out what he’s passionate about and ask him about it. You’ll discover that guys who are normally shy, closed off, or withdrawn will gush about the subject they care the most about.
When you’re talking to him about his passion, your goal is to find out why he’s passionate about it.
When you know the answer to that question, you’ll know a whole lot more about him, who he really is and what makes him go.
It also makes him feel a much deeper connection to you. If you put in the time to find out why he’s so passionate about his favorite subject, he’ll feel like you get him as a person, on a deep deep level.
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Guys are looking their whole lives for someone who gets them on a deep level – and they don’t easily let go of someone who does.
3. He Wants A Good Listener
Obviously, I’m not saying that you should just listen to him and whatever he says at the expense of expressing yourself – that’s ridiculous.
What I’m sharing are the things that you can do with a guy to make him feel a deep personal connection to you – that will make him want to bring your lives closer together.
Guys will bond with people who they feel that they can share anything with. They don’t bond with someone and THEN open up to them, opening up to you is how a guy bonds.
If you want him to bond with you and become more intimate with you, connect with him where he’s most happy and excited to share with you.
When you do that, two very important things happen.
First, like I said before – he starts to bond with you. He notices that you’re really listening to him and that you’re engaging with him about things that he cares about – and that draws him closer to you.
Second, it gives him a chance to drop the “mask” that he puts on for the rest of the world and show you who he really is underneath.
There is nothing more important to your long-term chances with a guy than him knowing he can be his true self around you.
If you accept who he really is when he’s not wearing his mask (without a hint of judgment – judgment will shut him down and drive him away from you in a blink), he will feel deeply, truly connected to you.
4. He Wants Someone Who Shares His Goals And Dreams
The best, longest lasting, most passionate connections are between people who are moving in the same direction in life. Who hold the same values. Who want the same things out of life.
Guys are looking for someone who they can count on to back them up – who they know supports them and their direction in life.
That doesn’t mean you don’t have goals – it means your goals align with his and you’re moving towards them together, supporting each other all the way.
If your goal is life partnership and deep love that lasts a lifetime, then this is extremely important.
If your goal is just to hook up (which is totally fine), then this is less important.
It’s all about recognizing what his vision of his ideal life is, and seeing whether that matches with yours.
For instance, let’s say he wants to work really hard, retire, and then travel the world. Does that match up with what you want?
If it does, great! Your visions are aligned with each other and you can work together towards your goals. You’re a good match.
If it doesn’t, let’s say you’d rather settle down and raise a family in one place rather than travel, then your visions aren’t aligned. It won’t feel to him like you’re helping him move towards his dreams (just like it won’t feel like he’s helping you towards your dreams either). If that’s the case, then it’s not a good match.
The important thing is to make sure your goals and dreams line up with each other – it will save you a ton of trouble down the line.
5. He Wants A Woman Who Has Dreams And Goals For Herself
I wasn’t kidding when I said #4 isn’t about you putting your goals behind his.
The key part of #4 is that you SHARE his goals and dreams, that means you have goals and dreams for yourself and they align with his as well.
I’m not telling you to drop everything in your life and follow him completely – that’s totally off base. (Plus, it will probably push any guy away).
What I’m saying is that in any relationship you want to last, you have to take some time and find out whether your goals and ambitions in life match.
If they do, great.
If they don’t, it’s going to cause a lot more conflict in your relationship. Everything you do in life is subconsciously about moving closer to your goals – and he’s the same way.
So if you have different and conflicting goals for what you want out of life, you’ll be subconsciously working against each other all the time… which results in resentment, frustration, and fights that neither of you understand why they’re happening.
6. He Wants A Woman He’s Compatible With
And vice versa.
A lot of people talk about compatibility but no one really stops to define it.
So here it is: compatibility means being in a relationship with each other feels easy. Effortless. There’s no day to day strain.
Compatibility means that it’s easy to be around each other, and that it feels good to be around each other.
Here’s a simple foolproof test: if it feels like you have to “fight” for your relationship, or it feels like you’re constantly battling to keep your relationship on track – that’s a strong sing you’re not compatible with each other.
If you’re not a good match for each other, that’s OK – you just have to recognize it.
The thing to remember is that compatibility and attraction are two different things. It’s totally normal (and very easy) to be attracted to someone who’s not a good match for you.
That doesn’t make him a bad person, and it doesn’t make you a bad person. It’s just something to be aware of, and something to take into consideration when you’re having expectations about the future with him.
If he’s a guy you want to build a future with, then you’d better be compatible with each other.
If he’s a guy you just want to have a good time with in the short term, then it doesn’t matter nearly as much whether you’re compatible. Short term is much more about attraction.
7. He Wants A Woman He Can Have Great Sex With
In case it’s not clear, I’m not going to sit here and pander to you, telling you sweet sounding lies that actually make your love life more confusing and difficult.
I’m going to give you the honest truth about men – and it’s blunt sometimes, but the #1 thing that I want for you is for you to be effective in getting what you want.
So when I say that guys want a woman they can have great sex with, I’m being blunt, but I’m also telling you the truth about what guys really need.
Sex is important to men. If you ignore it, you’re in trouble in your future relationships.
There’s plenty of resources online about improving your sex life, so I’m not going to get into it here. All I’ll say is that loving sex and loving sex with him helps a relationship a lot, and is something that shouldn’t be ignored.
8. He Wants A Woman With A Great Vibe
Your vibe is something I talk about a lot, and for good reason: it’s the foundation of your attractiveness and everything relating to your relationships with other people.
I’m not exaggerating when I say that your vibe is the single most important aspect of how a man (or anyone else) responds to you.
Your vibe grows from your mood – it’s an extension of how you’re truly, honestly feeling at any given moment.
If you’re in a good mood, your vibe will be good. If you’re anxious, or resentful, or angry, those negative moods poison your vibe and turn it negative.
Your vibe is determined by what you’re truly, honestly feeling at the moment. That means that even if you tell yourself you’re in a great mood, if you’re honestly flustered, upset, or nervous it will come through in your vibe.
The best way to wrap your head around vibe is to use an example from your own life. Do you have a friend or acquaintance that always seems like they’re in a bad mood?
Like the vast majority of times that you spend time with them or talk to them, they’re complaining about something going wrong in their life.
How do you feel when you see their name come up on your phone? Or you see them walk into the room? Or you start a conversation with them?
Chances are, you feel down – like an “ugh” feeling in your stomach that just happens without you thinking about it.
That’s the power of vibe. Because that person is always complaining, voicing negativity, and feeling bad for themselves, it feels bad to interact with them.
A great test to find out what kind of vibe a friend has is to measure how you feel after hanging out with them.
If you feel excited, energetic, and more charged up than before – that means your friend’s vibe is good.
If you feel drained, negative, and down, that means your friend’s vibe was bad.
For guys, your vibe is more important than almost anything else about you. Your vibe determines whether it feels good to be around you or not.
And when it comes to men, their feelings about you are controlled almost 100% by how they’re feeling when they’re around you.
Guys very rarely evaluate a woman by thinking about the future with them. In reality, guys determine how they feel about a woman based almost entirely on how they feel while she’s around.
If a guy feels good while he’s around you, he’s going to be interested in you! He’s going to want to spend more time with you, and he’s going to show more enthusiasm for hanging out, getting closer and getting to know you better.
On the other hand, if it doesn’t feel good for a guy to spend time with you, he’s going to avoid it. That means he won’t answer texts, or phone calls, and he’ll stand you up on dates.
This is why vibe is so important. When your vibe is good, it feels good to be around you. When your vibe is negative, it doesn’t.
When it comes down to it, guys want a woman they’re attracted to, compatible with, and who feels good to be around.
If you focus on being in the best possible mood you can be while you’re around him, your vibe will automatically be good. And when your vibe is good, he’ll feel good around you – which he needs in order to want to be around you more.
So there you have it – the 8 things every guy wants in a woman. If you’ve got any questions, or you disagree with anything I’ve written, go ahead and drop me a line in the comments! I love to talk about this stuff.
I hope this article helped you know what men really want in a woman. Before you decide what to do next, you need to know about the pivotal moment in any relationship that determines if you get to live happily ever after or he leaves you so pay attention to this next step because it’s vitally important: At some point he will ask himself is this the woman I should commit to for the long term? The answer to that will determine the fate of your relationship: Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material (the type of woman he commits himself to) or if he see’s you as just a fling? If not you need to read this next: The #1 Thing Men Desire In A Woman…
The second problem will undermine whatever relationship you have if it’s allowed to fester and destroy your relationship from the inside, so read this right now or risk your relationship because at some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger, read this now or risk losing him forever:
Here’s What Every Man Wants In A Woman
1. He wants to be deeply attracted to you
2. He wants to be able to share his passion with you
3. He wants a good listener
4. He wants someone who shares his goals and dreams
5. He wants a woman who has dreams and goals for herself
6. He wants a woman he’s compatible with
7. He wants a woman he can have great sex with
8. He wants a woman with a great vibe
In this century, marriages have been of more harm than good to the people involved thus leading to divorces and separation cases. This has mostly been blamed on the different views that men and women have about marriage.
Rarely do you find a couple with the same beliefs in marriage, most hold on to marriages through perseverance and hope. Some women even get into a union with the hopes of changing their men to suit their beliefs. This leads to strained unions because as it is, changing an adult’s beliefs about anything is not a walk in the park.
In order to help women know what they are getting into, we asked men what they really want in a union and these are some of the responses received.
1. Submissive women
As it is, men believe that since they are considered the head of their respective families, their wives should trust their words to be final. Most men feel like women have turned out to bring stiff competition on who heads the family and who makes decisions. They feel like women are taking over their place as the decision makers in the house.
Women don’t trust them and always want to be at the same level with them. In that case, men made it clear that their place in the family should be respected no matter what. With the wind of change blowing, most women have been empowered and it is almost impossible for men to maintain their once powerful roles.
According to Maurice Matheka, a qualified sexologist with more than 17 years experience, societal pressures bestowed upon us have caused men to end up with the wrong women. The society expects women to be submissive, lady like, gentle, less bold and motherly, traits he trashes if one is to find their Ms Right.
With these traits in mind, many women end up acting. Women sugar coat their personalities to portray what would be societal ideal and men marry them without much scrutiny since in this society, only married men who fulfil societal rules are deemed successful and preferred in the corporate world.
He also blames this same acting on the many breaking marriages and side dishes, as one can only act for so long. He gives two to ten years for men who are more patient and even less for ladies.
2. Women who do not deny them conjugal rights
Some men argued that unlike our forefathers, in this era, women find all excuses not to give their men the conjugal rights they deserve. Apart from being tired, they always claim to either be sick, in a bad mood or too busy for sexual desires.
Sixty per cent of the men interviewed confessed that their marriages would be better if only their wives gave them their conjugal rights on a daily basis. Men expect their partners to always be on standby any time they need their conjugal rights. Men view the many excuses as rude and irresponsible. Some even pointed out that this makes them stray in order to fulfil their sexual needs.
3. Women who can pay bills without complaining
Some of the men interviewed complained that they were overwhelmed with family bills. From house rents, school fees, electricity bills and water bills, not leaving out the extreme spending when shopping for the house.
To them, marriage is a union for two and it can only be better if the bills are split into half such that each spouse feels an equal pinch. They say some women even earn more that their men but still insist on their men settling bills. They, on the other hand, settle for lesser bills like the daily costs of perishable foods.
4. Hard-working wives
Seventy two per cent of men interviewed confessed that 90 per cent of the work done in their homes was done by their house-helps as their wives threw orders left right and centre. This, according to them, turns them off and makes them have minimal respect for their wives.
They said it is attractive and appealing to see your wife work in the house, by this they mean ‘hands on’ approach.
“A woman who matches her spouse intellectually, chips in family matters as well as accompanies him to parties and social events is a beauty to behold,” says Hezekiel Mahehu, the worship leader at House of Grace International who has been married for nine years.
According to the men interviewed by ‘Eve Woman’, as long as a woman is in the house, she should plan on carrying out the house chores individually. The help should only come in if it’s something she cannot do alone. That way, they will have fulfilled their duties as wives, but as long as the help does 90 per cent of the housework, then the wives have failed.
5. Women with high self-esteem and confidence.
Most men confessed to fall in love more and more with women who believe in themselves and have confidence. To them, these traits portray power and trust.
Women who have low self-esteem cannot be trusted to nurture children and bring them up the right way. This is because they will always complain and whine about everything. This affects the upbringing of the children and apart from that, it also kills the love that is their partners. Their men will always feel safe and at peace when away from them.
Unlike popular beliefs hammered in our minds courtesy of magazines and too much TV, one need not be necessarily beautiful to be confident.
“Confidence is an attitude,” says Tony, a local bank manager who has been married for 22 years with three children. It is an attitude that comes out in practically any activity; how you eat, how you walk, how you talk, how you sneeze.”
6. Women with inner beauty
Like they say, beauty is skin deep. Apart from the outer beauty that is first to be noticed, men made it clear that a woman’s inner beauty is like fuel in a marriage. The tender love and care in a woman lightens up a man’s world even when a marriage is going through a difficult time.
Women who are positive thinkers and encourage their men tend to have better relationships than those who are always negative and look down upon their men.
Men are likely to stick to women who will have positive thoughts in case they spend a night out or in case they receive suspicious calls. Not women who are always ready to jump into negative conclusions any time their men stay out late.
Sexologist Maurice Matheka advises that before you say I do, you should ask yourself if you are proposing because, a woman is physically appealing or because you want to settle down with her.
7. Women who are accommodative
When a woman gets into a marriage, she does so knowing that her spouse has a family and relatives. This means she will have to interact with them in one way or another at some point. Men say they love women who accommodate their families as they are without looking down upon them or making a fuss at every given opportunity.
Men want women to love their mothers no matter the relationship they have. They should at least pretend to love them in their presence and not show it outright because that is a sign of disrespect. No man will want to see his mother being intimidated by his wife no matter what.
“I would hate being embarrassed as a result of her loose tongue,” says Francis, a freelance wedding photographer. They say that behind every successful man is a strong woman. Strength comes with emotional and financial support given the hard economic times we are living in.
“I am scared of settling down with a woman who does not understand the nature of my job and the crazy schedules,” he says. “She has to be busy working to also fend for the family, not all over my business micro managing what I do,” he says.
8. Physical maintenance
Even though men said that inner beauty is attractive, they also confessed that women must learn to at least maintain an attractive physical appearance. Most men said their wives stopped caring about their physical appearances the moment they said ‘I do’. This totally turns them off.
Godwin, who dated for five years before saying ‘I do’, confesses that the first thing that attracted him to his wife was the physical appearance. And just like all men are visual creators, they are attracted to what they see.